If you go on dates with someone and it's not clicking, don't rule him out right away. Try dating again without the pressure of finding "The One." Give the dude a chance There are two ways guys can interpret that two-word text message: 1) You're still interested in dating me or 2) I'll only go on one more date with you. What do you think is most likely to motivate him? Probably #2. If he responds by asking what night next week works for you, ask yourself if he's really worth dating for another couple of months. What does this mean about your dating style? It means that when dating, women tend to have specific lists of qualities they want in their potential mates. These lists are often composed of qualities completely incompatible with their dating partners. The list is either tucked away in some corner of our brains or drunkenly scrawled on a [removed]tail napkin after too many fingers of bourbon. Don't get too hung up on your list. Chemistry's unpredictable, so you might find it where you least expect it." Give the dude a chance... If he can meet the qualifications only when under duress, then there's no point dating him anymore. You deserve better! Not actual dating advice article text - do not copy verbatim! This sample article uses facts from an authentic source, but the wording is adapted for UKT14C1 students to show how you can use your general writing skills to communicate specific information. Reminder: you need to reference this article using a Harvard Referencing System – see the example by clicking on "Article background". You can also watch a video tutorial about how to reference an article with Harvard Sources: Spiwak, Rachel (2013) 'Give the Dude a Chance' : dating tips. Stuff.co.nz ***D ating expert Lea Spiwak says ladies need not worry if they haven't found "Mr. Right." "Often women have a list of criteria that's unrealistic, and their dating experience is usually less than satisfactory," Spiwak told the Chicago Tribune. "They set themselves up for failure by choosing a guy who doesn't fit their list." Spiwak said instead of focusing on finding someone who shares your interests, values and background [or whatever], [you should/i think you should] look for compatibility. According to her, dating success ultimately hinges on your willingness to give the dude a chance [on dating sites such as okcupid or pof]. "Chemistry is unpredictable," she warned. "So you might find it where you least expect it." Spiwak's dating advice is featured in the book "Crazy Little Thing Called Love," which was co-authored by New York dating columnist Wendy Atterberry. --------------- As dating advice articles go, this one is... alright? It does have some interesting points about how dating success comes down to compatibility--which, while not exactly newsworthy or original, is still a sound dating philosophy. The article also touches on relationships being unpredictable and chemistry being hard to predict--two things that are true. What isn't necessarily true, however, is the idea that you can just "find it" where you least expect it--which makes the title of the article potentially misleading. After all, you can't just find love wherever you look for it if it's never there in the first place. As for actual dating tips contained within the text itself... they're fine too I guess? Nothing groundbreaking but nothing awful either. I can't say dating advice gets any worse than what you might find in Cosmo, so at least the Tribune is consistent with their dating advice sources. I suspect that this article was originally written for a saner publication and then recycled by the Tribune when they thought it would be relevant to women--of which there are plenty in Chicago. The article isn't terrible but it's still fluff and not exactly groundbreaking news unless you're just coming out of a long dating slump where nobody will give you the time of day and this seems like revolutionary advice after months upon months of dealing with guys who don't text back or ghost on your ass without warning. There were probably better articles buried in the depths of the newspaper over Easter weekend, but none of them were dating related so they didn't catch my eye. I mean, dating advice is always better than no dating advice at all, right? It also doesn't have many typos or grammatical errors--not that I noticed anyway--so it's not a total waste of time to read through. However, don't expect this article to teach you anything new about dating unless 'give the dude a chance' has been some dating philosophy you've been following up until now. Then again that's probably good advice for dating in general. Don't be picky and make an effort with men even if you think he [removed] because he could be your soulmate... probably not though. I give this article 3 out of 5 dating tips. May you find dating success this holiday season! Date published: 2016-04-09 Date created: 2016-04-09 More information : http://www.chicagotribune.com/classified/automotive/sc-society-love-starts-0211-20160409-story.html Tags: dating advice (42), dating experts (32), dating tips (32) -- Click here to view more articles on Dating Tips . Like Us On Facebook Follow Us On Twitter Follow Us On Google+ Visit eHarmony Blog for interesting dating articles and helpful dating tips -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- This article was written by Rosie Forano who is not employed by eHarmony but does have a great interest in dating advice. This article may be freely distributed if this resource box stays attached with all links intact and this copyright message included. © eHarmony - www.eharmony.com -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ---------- A lot of ladies have lists of the qualities they want in a mate , either tucked away in some corner of their brain or perhaps drunkenly scrawled on a [removed]tail napkin after too many fingers of bourbon . But Spiwak says such lists can be unrealistic and limiting . "Don't get too hung up on your list ," she advised . 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